Sunday, 6 July 2025

Finding Calm, Feelings, String Quilts-Old and New, Applique Too

 I was just getting used to it being June and now it is July. I feel like I've been very busy. Tony had his drivers' license renewal which, being over 80, meant he had to go to the office and do the testing which he aced. I find it odd they don't check how your feet or any reflexes are. Shouldn't that be as important as knowing how to draw a clock face to include 10 past 10. However, I've read seniors still have the least accidents of all age groups, so maybe it's all okay. 

Here is Petey pointing out my current book, Louise Erdrich's The Sentence which I'm enjoying now after an iffy start but I'm at page 37 and it's growing on me...the good writing is drawing me in. 

That was one of my two very enjoyable outings last week. The library was extra busy with two groups of children, one tiny tots and the other middle school aged teenagers, there for activities. The sounds of all their voices...the older ones discussing a book and the little ones being read to by a very enthusiastic volunteer were just awesome. 
I saw this book and took a picture. Cross Stitch = Calm   Yes, so true and HERE is a link to Leah's book to purchase which features 40 patterns to help you de-stress.
Acceptance versus Giving In
How are you doing with the calming bit? I know I'm not the only one struggling with achieving that. But I'm doing all I can to keep the big bad thoughts at bay...these weeks are having their ups and downs, that's for sure. And we are having ongoing discussions surrounding the difference between giving in/up and acceptance. I think acceptance is positive overall and that is what Tony should strive for. But he sees any move in that direction as giving up. And who knows, if in his shoes and feeling weaker by the day, I really don't know how I'd feel. I am a solutions/plans kind of thinker so perhaps would want to keep up the search too. I just don't know. What do you think? 
I'm looking forward to a sit down with our gp soon...he's a good listener and chatterer and good with Tony too. But Tony has another scheduled test before that will happen. 
Meanwhile, the sewing, swimming, constant dog walks and ball playing-all things I love- are great and very positive distractions for me. 

Speaking of ball playing...One sunny evening this week, we went to watch Robbie's baseball game. We brought our chairs to one of the five baseball diamonds the local town has; they are all named and the one we were at is called Brickdust Field. Like the hockey, boys and girls play together which is nice to see. Baseball games are long...about two hours, but they moved it right along so there was always action. I like how sports teach kids rules, not only about the game, but about their behaviour too. The spirit of fair play and especially respect for each other is paramount. I liked how the coaches called out  encouraging words to each and every player no matter how they played. 
Writing that just made me think of the song What the World Needs Now is Love, Sweet Love. That was Burt Bacharach's wonderful music composed when the U.S. and the world were so divided over the Vietnam war. Amazing how the words still very much apply. "Not just for some, but for everyone." 

I'm finding my own kind of calm in the sewing room and enjoying sewing what I know will be the last of the blue strings blocks. Truthfully, I find these a little boring but it's not the strings fault. And I'm pleased with how the blocks are piling up. I found a bag of men's handkerchiefs, you know the very flimsy kind, I'd bought at a thrift store and decided to try them for the backings.
  I did read that it would be good to provide a sort of stabilizer for these very thin fabrics. This starch below was recommended and when searching online to buy it, I found it was available at my local Walmart.  I also use this Dollar Store spray bottle to help iron out wrinkles and spray my indoor plants in wintertime.  Do you starch your fabrics? I've never done it.                                       
 I was poking around in the old sewing room where I have a number of projects pinned to the wall and noticed this one. That's Tony's kangaroo there from his time in Australia, just one of his world wide work adventures.
I took it out in the light of day and thought I really should finish this one. It has scrappy strings in neutrals for the backgrounds.
And simple applique.
I wonder where that idea came from as I surely would have seen it somewhere online. If you know, please remind me.
I've rambled on too long and that happens when I don't write for a few days. Next time I'll share my bread machine review- yes, we are enjoying homemade egg bread!
Take care all of you!
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30 comments :

Karen - Quilts...etc. said...

that is a nice quilt with the applique. I'm sure it is sad and stressful seeing Tony loosing his strength week to week. I'm not sure what the testing for older people is for the driver's license I don't believe we have that in Arkansas but I do know in some other states it is law. What does it entail? In Illinois I believe you need to actually drive with a person from the renewal office so they can see that you can drive still with no difficulty. I use spray starch like what you have sometimes but not all the time just depends on the fabric and how stuck in the wrinkles are.

Anonymous said...

I think I saw it on the Cheri Payne site, prairie flowers

Anonymous said...

Sounds like a stressful time at your house in the woods. Reading and stitching are good distractions. I love your appliquéd flowers on the neutral backgrounds. It’s a very peaceful quilt. Are you going to machine or hand quilt it? Take care. Ear rubs for Petey Gail at the cozy quilter.

MissPat said...

The posey quilt is darling. You should definitely finish it. I'm sorry that Tony is having so many medical issues. it's easy to be depressed when you're not feeling well and there seems to be no solution. He's lucky to have you for a support system.
Pat

LIttle Penguin Quilts said...

I always try to have a variety of favorite activities going on through the days and that helps with calming the anxiety. Walking, reading, sewing - they all help, don't they? That cross-stitch book intrigues me - I'll have to see if our library has it. I remember your appliqued flowers with the string backgrounds - I love that one! It should definitely be on your finishing list!

Jenn Jilks said...

That quilt is delightful!
I am finding my mental health is bad. So much going on. Too many stresses and changes.

Nancy J said...

Stress, I try to not take in too much from the TV, world wide there is tragedy in huge amounts. the last massive flood was too much for me to listen to. Waning strength, Hugh has that too, I undo the milk tops, sauce bottles, and even sometimes tinfoil pills. The larger ones like antibiotics are okay, smaller ones in the 15 or 20 per foil strip are too hard for him now.Yesterday we bought neoprene arm sleeves to protect his skin when doing anything that might even make a small cut or graze.And I hope to make some for lower legs!! Wish me luck, I found some online, no pattern but gave me a good idea how to shape them. Love the applique. Cold start here. might be zero C.!!!

Delighted Hands said...

The applique quilt is gorgeous--it is calling out to be finished!
I've had all kinds of ups and downs these last 10 months and did finally find a calmness without giving up (I came close several times). I am grateful for the energy to do the things I love again; sewing, painting, woodworking...

Julierose said...

Beautiful applique piece--love the flowers and fabrics...right now I am still mostly recuperating and resting a lot but took out my old watercolor set and did a bit of pencil sketching and coloring in...
i find that calming...I kind of lose myself in capturing --or really, trying to!--thing sin my sketch...I hope you can keep calm--it's not easy with today's world events!! Hugs, Julierose

Jackie said...

Right now I am finding calm and peace in my various projects, weaving, embroidery, and knitting. I am finally realizing I am living just the life of abundance that I was meant to. Please share your egg bread recipe.

God bless.

Rosemary Dickinson said...

I love your applique quilt. I think the neutral strips give it a calming effect. I love so many of those Burt Bacharach songs. Dionne Warwick sang so many of them so well! I can still hear her voice. I love the blue and yellow strings together. One of my favorite combinations!

Margie West said...

I'm glad to hear that you are dealing with your stress by stitching, reading and walking. Ball games are fun too. I like your applique quilt, especially with the way you are doing the background. Keep your chin up. Ill be sending some prayers and happy thoughts your way. Margie \TN

Linda at Texas Quilt Gal said...

Love your applique flowers quilt! What a sweet photo of Petey. How long will he be around? I need calming thoughts the most after my cat has waked me up at 3am. Almost every night he does that and I have trouble getting back to sleep because guess what? My mind won't shut down. Thoughts that are kept at bay during the day are relentless in the middle of the night!

Quilting Babcia said...

I hope you can take some peace and comfort from knowing that you are definitely not alone in these life events that are affecting so many of us at this age. In our little quilt ministry group I think the median age is approaching 80 and nearly every one of us has a husband whose health is deteriorating. We've found comfort in the comraderie, being able to talk with friends who are nonjudgmental and understand the pain and frustration, and occasionally the tears, that we experience.
I love that floral applique with the neutral strips, and yes, it is definitely worth finishing!

Anonymous said...

I enjoy reading about your daily coming and goings, your writing is lovely. I think you should list your appliqué as earthly delights rather than simple appliqué 😉. Appliqué is not a simple task and yours is beautiful! I almost always use spray starch while prepping fabric for a project, it improves my accuracy while rotary cutting.

cityquilter grace said...

a very pretty quilt unearthed to the light of day....i think as we get older and the culture around us changes at warp speed it is difficult not to be stressed...i think of my mother living 97 years and all she survived...depression, economic hardships, then ww2 and all that entailed, the 60s, the new century, all her children becoming seniors, progressive blurring of societal boundaries....and now my 50 yo daughter is saying the same things...lol...me, i just sew!

Angie in SoCal said...

What a thoughtful post. I'm going on 80 and I hear you. That is a lovely posey quilt. Be blessed.

PaintedThread said...

Cross-Stitch to calm... I like that! Acceptance - that's a tough one - I'm not good at it when it comes to myself. Love the strings. I've only starched some applique stuff.

Michele McLaughlin said...

Love the applique quilt but haven't seen it anywhere. I'm glad you are finding some respite from the stress by sewing, swimming, etc. I also watching youtube sewing channels to just get my mind off things (like the state of the country). I'm sending you hugs and positive energy. PS, I never use starch.

Florida Farm Girl said...

I'm glad that Robbie's coaches are trying to instill good values instead of the "win at all costs, its the only thing that matters" that so many kids get bombarded with. It's a bummer to have an aging husband (mine is rapidly approaching 85) but he's hanging in there and can outwork me on any day of the week. Its hot down here so I'm staying in my sewing studio which is downstairs where its cooler. Good luck with the new tests and consults.

loulee said...

I do like your applique flowers. They pop out of the neutrals.

Jeanna said...

Cross stitch does equal calm, until the frog comes out LOL. Your string blocks are looking nice. Yes, I starch. I find that it helps my blocks lay flatter. Your applique' quilt is stunning! I hope you can work it into a finish soon.

Susan said...

What lovely projects - I have been very remiss and not followed you - so now you will go on my blog list.
Thanks for your comments on my blog posts.

Rebecca Grace said...

Firstly, your applique project is delightful and I’m glad you’ll be returning to it. Regarding driving: My dad had Multiple Systems Atrophy (like Parkinson’s but worse because it affected involuntary muscles as well as voluntary muscles) and my sister convinced him to stop driving because of slow reflexes and how long it took him just to get both legs in and out of the car. But he was still in his sixties. I don’t think the driving tests ought to be mandated based just on age alone is my point. It would be better if DMVs screened all adults regularly in my opinion as giving up driving feels like giving up independence and many families wait too long to have the Driving Talk. It’s worse than the Sex Talk or the Where Do Babies Come From or the Was I Premature Or Did You And Dad Have Sex Before You Got Married talks…. ;-). I feel for what you and Tony are going through. My take is that having a terminal illness is devastating enough, so I tried to support and empower my mom by talking about the pros and cons of her options and helping her make connections between the small decisions (whether to do this test or that procedure) and her ultimate goals about how she wanted to spend the rest of her time on earth and how she wanted to end it (at home, as naturally as possible, not in a hospital with lots of interventions). And then when she made a decision, I advocated for her right to make those choices whether other family members agreed with them or not because it’s empowering to remember that you are still ultimately in charge, not your adult children or your doctor whose goal is to keep you alive as long as possible no matter how much suffering and indignity that entails. My father in law was different; he was not ready to leave this earth when his body was quitting on him and he was willing to try anything and everything until the surgeons finally said they were sorry but there was nothing else they could do for him. It is awful no matter how it all goes down. Tony is so fortunate for your love and support. Just being able to have those conversations about giving up vs acceptance etc with someone who loves you and really knows you to your core is such an incredible blessing. Sending you a big hug.

Susie H said...

I love your applique project. The string backgrounds are such a nice neutral for the colorful flowers. Yes, I starch when I can. Sometimes I get caught up with scrappiness and just sew. I usually regreat not starching the bits. Oh well, keep on sewing and smiling!

Magpie's Mumblings said...

I'm so sorry that your DH is going through such health issues. It's so hard to know what to do but hopefully your GP will shed some further light on things. I know my RC is slowing down too. He fell again this week - primarily because he doesn't pick up his feet when he's walking. He's finally resorting to taking his cane but that won't help with the feet issue. It's a worry, so I know how you feel.

Kate said...

The scrappy flowers is such a pretty quilt, definitely worth finishing. Fingers crossed that Your Guy's health issues have some sort of resolution after the testing and doctor visits.

Vicki in MN said...

Definitely you should finish that applique flower quilt, it will be gorgeous all quilted up! I do starch flimsy fabrics or ones that want to stretch a bit more than others. I use the Faultless one and I also use the liquid starch one that is no longer available and I mix it half and half with water for a nice crisp finish.

Bonnie said...

Don't think you've written too much -- I enjoy your chatting with us. You've got your plate full now. I hope you both can find some answers. It sounds to me you have a very full life and are keeping occupied with lots of good things. I too starch some fabric although I use a different brand which I buy by the gallon from Amazon. I like how it helps me get some of the wrinkles out of my older fabrics. Definitely finish up that appliqué -- it really is lovely.

Alycia~Quiltygirl said...

Acceptance vs giving in - boy - that is a tough question.
I do love your strings -so pretty. and your flower quilt - its like having a garden in the house