Thursday, 3 April 2025

Stitchy Mail, Teal Stars, Liberty's Birds, Update Too

Oh April, where are you? 

Since I last wrote, we've had more snow- 14 cm to be exact, prior to it turning into an ice storm which was scary, then a thunder and lightening storm, high winds and rain, more snow -the mean kind, small bits driven by the wind and the weather warnings kept piling on. 

Seeing the trees laden with ice is always sad.
They tried to say there might even be a tornado in the mix. Yikes! It's -7 windchill this morning..yes it's staying cold and I'm still clunking around the trails in my winter boots with cleats and wearing my winter jacket. But as we always say, it could be worse. Some folks lost their power and it's taking days to get it back. I am always so grateful when that does not happen here...so far. But perhaps this was winter of 2025's last hurrah. The temperature is supposed to rise dramatically by the end of this day to 18C!!   
Okay, that's enough yakking about the weather. What else happened this week. My computer was having glitches and then failed completely. Tony worked on it most of Wednesday to figure it out and got it working fine again. I was happy about that as this Acer is not that old and shouldn't be giving up just yet. 

I've now completely finished two of Liberty's Birds blocks; well no, as it happens, not quite. When I took a photo of the Red Cardinal, I didn't like the curve on the flower stem so I took out the stitches and fixed it. I like to add a few embellishments like blanket stitches here and there so that adds time. 

I had thought the RSC colour is teal for this month and I had to check out what exactly is teal. I found this handy chart at Art in Context so apparently teal can run to lighter shades as well as the dark that I immediately thought of. Whatever the shades, I have very little of these lovely colours in my stash. *Actually Red is the colour for April, 2025. But the teals are pretty to look at anyway. :)

I dug deep to find a few pieces. I've finished one Starry Hexagon and prepped a couple more. 
I must show you that paisley up close. It's from a thrifted man's shirt (don't think Tony would ever wear such!) and when I bought it, I thought it would be neat and interesting for Halloween pumpkin fabric. 
I had stitchy mail this week.  My Aunt Martha's State Flowers transfer set arrived. 
I plan to stitch the Canadian Provincial and U.S. State flowers together in one project, as a way of marking our two countries marvelous shared history. I was thinking maybe arranging them alphabetically or something. 

Update

Okay, so we made the over an hour's drive to the huge hospital complex- and with Brad's help found where we needed to be for Tony's appointment. Once in that particular wing, it is smooth sailing with folks ready to guide you even. We met first with the respirologist then with the pulmonologist-lung cancer guy joining us. We spent an hour with them all told and the conversations were excellent. I won't bore you with all the questions and answers, but the bottom line was this...the procedures to check out the tumor have risks...maybe too many for someone Tony's age to take a chance on. And then even if it was found to be cancer, the treatments with the usual awful side effects also are not advisable for someone in his age category. But the decision to proceed or not was up to us, of course. Since our gp had already provided us with this line of thinking and we had talked it over, we knew what the answer would be. Unless something happens to change our outlook, we are leaving it alone for now. And Tony's fatigue...they didn't think it had to do with his lungs. Since he's had every test known to man showing nothing else untoward here's what they thought... a rapid decline in strength and stamina in your eighties can be part of the natural aging process and, in fact, is that way for most folks. No getting around or over it. But Tony is struggling to accept that idea nonetheless. 

So in a way, we are both relieved a bit too. It is daunting to face hospitals and treatments, etc. at any age and especially at ours. The less we have to do such may be for the better.  

Thank you all so much for your kind words and all the considerate suggestions, encouragement, etc. Tony appreciates it very much too. 

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29 comments :

PaintedThread said...

Wow - look at all that snow. Teal with that floral paisley is pretty. Good to get information... getting older is not for the faint of heart! Hugs.

Nancy J said...

I have also joined the fatigue club. We can celebrate the tiredness together Tony.And I know they do outline bthe risks very thoroughly, when I had my first angiogram, the surgeon hid the lines from me, and I said I needed to know everything. So she showed me. The second time, I had a younger trainee, who was SO reluctant to tell me, I said, do not be afraid to tell patients the risks, for myself I would rather know. He had been on the cardiac ward just 3 weeks!!! The state flowers will be beautiful Jocelyn.

Karen - Quilts...etc. said...

I can see your point entirely when you hit your 80's you need to weight the pro's and con's of cancer treatment - would there be a lot more time or barely any difference? I think the right decision was probably made.
Your weather sounds awful - we are hoping no tornado for us tomorrow or Saturday - well be getting a lot of rain for sure

Linda said...

How wonderful to be able to have some answers and make your own decisions about Tony's care. Maybe he can have some peace with that knowledge. Those huge complexes can be daunting but kind folks make it "smooth sailing" as you say.
My husband has congestive heart failure and has similar struggles with fatigue and accepting the aging process. He wants nothing more than to be able to jog again - lol - but realistically he wants to be able to do his formerly normal routine without getting winded. I pray for Tony - and for you, because we are the ones who have to try to keep them in a positive frame of mind, right? :)
That thrifted man's shirt fabric is fabulous!

The Cozy Quilter said...

Thinking of both of you as you face Tony’s health challenges together. That paisley shirt is fabulous…lots of colour matching potential! Cute birds too. Spring will come…we have had a messy mixed bag of seasons this past week. Take care. Gail.

Libby in TN said...

Weather has been wild everywhere this year! That paisley is positively scrumptious and so perfect for your teal stars. Aging is no fun, but the alternative is worse. Blessings to you and Tony.

Jeanna said...

Oh my goodness, Jocelyn. You had some scary weather. I hope this was the last of winter for you. the Liberty Bird blocks are so pretty, as are the starry hexagons with the teal background. Praying for you and Tony!

LIttle Penguin Quilts said...

It's snowing here in Northern Colorado this morning, too. Good moisture for us, but the trees are leafing out, especially the early spring flowering trees, and heavy snow can break off tree limbs. Love seeing your projects - the fabric from that thrifted shirt is fabulous! (None of the men in my family would wear that either!) Thinking of you and Tony as you navigate the health news and the decisions.

Susie H said...

I looked into the Aunt Martha's State Flowers thinking it might make a fun project to commemorate the USA's 250th anniversary next year. I'm still on the fence with indecision which I find the hardest part of any project. Love your paisley/teal star -- so pretty. Of course I love your cardinal block too since they are dear to my heart. Have a great finish to your week!

Rebecca Grace said...

Your paisley star is delightful; much better use of that fabric than for a man's shirt! I'm glad you and Tony got some good information about what's going on and what you can do -- or decide NOT to do -- about it. My mom has Stage 4 lung cancer and she wants to focus on quality of life for the time she has left, treating symptoms rather than "aggressively fighting" the cancer since the doctors all admit there is no possibility that anything can cure her. But there is one oncologist at her practice that keeps pushing her to try chemo and some kind of "infusion" drug that has complication rates so high that over 50% of patients end up in the ICU after their first treatment. NOT what my mom wants. It's bad enough to have a cancer diagnosis dropped on you like a ton of bricks, but patients deserve to have the agency and control of being given all of the relevant information and then having their decisions respected by all of their health care providers.

Gwyned Trefethen said...

It takes courage to weigh the odds of quality and quantity of life. Good for you and Tony for facing the difficulty decision head on and reaching the same conclusion.

Too bad this month isn't teal, since your hexie stars with teal borders are lovely.

Anonymous said...

I do hope Tony is feeling comfortable and cheerful through it all and you too are keeping your chin up .🤗 The weather will improve soon ☀️ Meanwhile keep on stitching the beautiful applique blocks . They are gorgeous ! love Debbie 💐x

Juliana said...

So glad the doctors were honest and able to make sure y'all knew the options and consequences. I hope Tony will be able to enjoy this next stage of his aging. It is so hard not to long for our stronger days. Good luck and peace to both of you.

Deb A said...

So glad you kept power during those storms. Glad you had some good conversations concerning Tony's health and are content with your choices. My Dad is of the same mind - he does what he can and rests as needed, but he always keeps going when he can! I love your beautiful bird blocks. That cardinal looks ready to fly off the fabric. Big hugs to you both and enjoy that warmer weather.

Anonymous said...

I was very happy to read "I plan to stitch the Canadian Provincial and U.S. State flowers together in one project, as a way of marking our two countries marvelous shared history." With so much negativity about our two countries...it was a surprise to read something with positivity. Thank you for your kind words. I pray you receive all the right answers for Tony's health. Your stitching is great.

Magpie's Mumblings said...

Thank you for the update on your DH and the health issues. I think, if I were at his stage of life, I wouldn't opt for invasive treatments either. I know it's not an easy decision for either one of you and I hope that now it's been made, you can move on and enjoy your time together.
I certainly never knew there were that many shades of teal!

TerryKnott.blogspot.com said...

That paisley fabric was much better suited for your purpose! I'm glad you and Tony have some answers and made some decisions. My father in law always said aging is for the warriors. He was right. Tony is a warrior as are you. Hugs.

CathieJ said...

Oh my, I am not enjoying our cool, rainy Spring weather, but I certainly don't envy your snow and frigid cold. Stay warm and safe. I really love the stars you made with that pretty paisley fabric. I look forward to watching your Canada/US project. Best wishes for you and Tony. It is hard sometimes to come to terms witht he age we have been lucky enough to achieve.

Carol in Texas said...

Yes, sadly it is true. My husband and I are both in our 80s and our energy level has plummeted in the last few years. When I turned 80 I felt pretty good, but each year has found me a bit less energetic. But I am glad for the energy I do have and I hope Tony can look at it that way too.

Mario Shaw said...

Isn't it difficult to get older?!! I am finding this now. I haven't commented on your blog but I enjoy it so much. Your bird blocks are wonderful. Hugs to you both.

Jenny said...

I'm so sorry to hear of Tony's health woes. But you got honest answers and made your decision based on facts. As my 99 year old Aunt used to say, "getting old is not for sissies!" Do tell Tony I'm sending him a Kiwi cyber hug, and one for you too of course.

Jackie said...

I love that paisley fabric. So beautiful with the teal. I am so glad that the discussions turned out to be so informative and no push for any procedures. Tell Tony to rest and relax, things will get done, just a bit slower than they used to.

God bless.

Frédérique - Quilting Patchwork Appliqué said...

The Liberty's Birds blocks are lovely, they are calling for Spring ;) Love your stars too, pretty shirt, perfect for quilting! Sorry about Tony's health, I send you both lot of love and kisses.
Thank you for sharing your pretty blocks, and linking up.

Nancy @ Grace and Peace Quilting said...

We had ice this past Sunday, also. Not fun for those who lose their power. Your appliqué birds and flowers are really pretty. Great job with the appliqué! And your Starry Hexagons are cute as the dickens, too! I jumped in with teal, as well. I'll be doing some red later this month. I'm with you--I can't imagine a man wearing that paisley shirt! But it makes great patchwork bait!!! You've had some wise input and thoughts on the medical front. Best wishes to Tony.

Sylvia@Treadlestitches said...

The Liberty birds are wonderful. I love that paisley shirt/fabric, and you have made it even better with the teal for your Starry Hexagon. It is so sensible of you and your husband to get all the information you can from the health professionals, and then decide how best to proceed. My mom (88 last November) is the same way, balancing treatment options for her ailments with the probable affects on her quality of life. She says no to the docs when she has to! Good luck with the warm weather!

TerryKnott.blogspot.com said...

Hooray for the power staying on during your snow storms. I'm glad that you had good conversations about Tony's health and that you have a plan. Good for him to continue on as before only with more rest breaks!

Karrin Hurd said...

Love your Liberty's Birds. Glad you got some clarification on Tony's status, and glad you kept your power during the storms.

Bonnie said...

Ugh for snow and ice. (Dare I mention we've had 26C here this week...) I love that you found that great paisley in a man's shirt. My DH wouldn't wear it either - ever! But it looks great in your star. I rather panic seeing and reading about teal as I thought it was red... well, thank goodness I read to the end of the paragraph. But I love what you shared about teal. Hopefully Tony will be able to work/rest/work/sit etc... I find I get tired after working a while so I'll sit and read a book or play games on the computer. I have several friends in their 80s who have stated they wouldn't ask for treatment if they got cancers. I'm still in my 70s so haven't reached that conclusion-yet.

Michele McLaughlin said...

Crickey! I can't believe the weather you've been having! Hopefully it's gotten warmer. Glad you are wearing cleats (I love them too). I am so in love with that paisley fabric and the stars you are making wow! Have a great day Jocelyn!